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How To Build Self Esteem By Building Trust | Mental Toughness …

Youth athletes need to build trust in themselves and their coaches to move up to the next level in their sport! Without trust, development is impossible! Just ask Olympic Gold Medalist Peter Vidmar.In this video, Peter shares how trusting his coach fully to teach him how to acquire new difficult moves and skills helped him gain self-esteem and confidence.We’d love to hear your thoughts about How To Build Self Esteem By Trusting Your Coach, please do leave a comment below!Early on I started to realize that Makoto Sakamoto, my coach, would never ask me to try something unless I was ready to do it. He was very big on progressions. He was very big on building a foundation Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #16 « Building Self Confidence Blog

2Jul/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #16Do you remember last week I ask you if you remembered your parents ever saying to you, ‘Mind your language!’? I talked about how our language patterns can have a powerful effect on our motivation and confidence to resolve an issue.The reason why I’m mentioning it again is because our language patterns can also have a really powerful influence on the feelings of others and how resourceful and motivated they feel to resolve an issue.I remember when I was coaching a CEO to help him get the best out of his team, there was one session where he told me that he had started a senior management team meeting by saying, ‘We’ve just got to grind through these issues.’When I, curiously, asked him what kind of effect he thought those words had had on his senior management team, he stopped, paused and thought for a moment and then his inner light bulb flashed. He realised that his words acurately reflected how he was feeling but were not motivating to some of the team members who prefer to enjoy the journey of getting to a goal, even if it is challenging.Basically, I’m encouraging you to use whatever language influences your colleagues, friends, family, clients and suppliers to feel more resourceful and positive about getting something resolved or achieving a task.We cannot not communicate so have fun creating more uplifting language patterns and watch your personal, career and business success soar!Warm wishesMadeleineFiled under: 60 Seconds to ConfidenceLeave a comment Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #15 « Building Self Confidence Blog

29Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #15Do you remember your parents ever saying to you, ‘Mind your language!’?They may have being referring to something they thought was rude or cheeky about what you said.The reason why they mentioned it and why I’m mentioning it now is because our language patterns can have a really powerful influence on our emotions.Of course there are the obvious things like self-criticism, blame or praise, but what I’m talking about is more subtle.If I say to you, ‘This sorting out your relationship or career or business issue…it’s going to be a problem,’ how do you feel?How does that feeling change if I say, ‘This sorting out your relationship, business or career issue…it’s going to be a challenge’?And what if I say, ‘This sorting out your relationship, business or career issue…it’s going to be an adventure.’ How do you feel now?I’ve found that most of my clients say they feel more positive about tackling the issues when I call it a challenge or an adventure. If you do too, then use those words!Basically, I’m encouraging you to use whatever language helps you to feel most resourceful and positive about getting something resolved. So, if you have become jaded with the politically correct use of the word ‘challenge’, then find your own empowering vocabulary.Have fun creating more uplifting language patterns for yourself and watch your personal, career and business success soar!Warm wishesMadeleineFiled under: 60 Seconds to ConfidenceLeave a comment Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #14 « Building Self Confidence Blog

25Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #14If you are finding that Procrastination is a thief of your success in any area of your personal, business or career life, this week’s tip will be helpful to you.Think of one task or goal you keep procrastinating about and, with that task in mind, take this procrastination busting test:Is the task really a project? Should it be chunked down into more manageable activities? How important is it that you do it? Could or should it be delegated? Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #12 « Building Self Confidence Blog

18Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #12A friend of mine told me he was going to a business conference. When he got back, I asked him how it went. He said, ‘It was just how I thought it would be…boring, lonely and a complete waste of time.His experience reminded me of a valuable thing to remember:‘Thoughts can become things, so choose the good ones!’Did my friend’s thoughts become self-fulfilling? I wonder if there were other people who went home after that conference energised and inspired having found interesting things to do and people to meet?But…if you’ve ever tried consistently to think positively, you’ll probably be saying to yourself, ‘Thinking positively is easier said than done!’ After all, we tend to be surrounded by bad news. We’re more wired to see obstacles and things that are wrong than opportunities and things that are right. Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #9 « Building Self Confidence Blog

8Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #9If you’re feeling like you’re in a ‘double bind’ at the moment, this week’s tip could be timely.What do I mean by a ‘double bind’?Well, if you feel you’re in a situation where whatever you do or whatever direction you take, there will be some pain attached so you slide into inaction and procrastination – that’s a ‘double bind’.Here are some ‘double binds’ my clients have expressed recently:I need to make more sales but I hate selling’ I want to be a strong leader who my team respects but I don’t like being aggressive’ ‘I need to earn more money but I don’t want to lose the quality time I spend with my partner’ ‘I ought to leave this difficult relationship but I’m worried I’ll regret doing that’ ‘I should go for a promotion but I’m anxious that I won’t be able to manage the responsibility and decision making’ ‘I need to have a difficult conversation with him but I’m afraid I’ll mess it up and he’ll blow up in my face’ One way to deal with a ‘double bind’ is to ask yourself a question that begins with ‘How can I…?’ and that also has in it an assumption that the double bind can be resolved.For example:‘How can I make more sales while enjoying selling?’ or ‘How can I earn more money and still have lots of quality time with my partner?’These are solution-focussed and open questions that unlock the creativity and resources of our brains, our ‘neck-top computers’.The answers may not appear immediately but they could well pop up when you least expect them – such as when your hands are busy and your mind is free, like when gardening or out on a walk. I often get those ideas when I’m in that state between being asleep and being fully awake, early in the morning, so I keep a notebook handy to help me capture them.What open, solution-focussed question could you ask about a ‘double-bind’ in your life? What doors could it open that previously seemed shut?Warm wishesMadeleineFiled under: 60 Seconds to ConfidenceLeave a comment Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #7 « Building Self Confidence Blog

1Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #7Do you have all the energy and motivation you need or are you feeling pressure or stress? If you want less stress, this week’s tips could help.Take some time to make a list of what drains you and what energises you.Sometimes things can appear on both sides of your list.For instance, family, friends, clients, employees and colleagues can appear as drains or energisers depending on who they are and how they interact with you… or you with them.Another example…moderate exercise can be an energiser activating the ‘happy’ chemicals in your brain and raising your stamina. Excessive exercise can wear you out in an already busy life.What are you putting up with that drains your energy? Continue reading

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Assertiveness Course | Confidence Building – Taylor Mason Training

Assertiveness Course Buffer Assertiveness CourseOften wrongly confused with aggression, assertive individuals aim to be neither passive nor aggressive in their interactions with other people. Although everyone acts in passive and aggressive ways from time to time, such ways of responding often result from a lack of self confidence and, therefore, are inappropriate expressions of what such people really need to say.Non-assertiveness may be seen as the use of inefficient communication skills, whereas assertiveness is considered a balanced response, being neither passive nor aggressive.The Concise Oxford Dictionary defines assertiveness as:“Forthright, positive, insistence on the recognition of one’s rights”We could summarise this to:  “Assertiveness means standing up for your personal rights – expressing thoughts, feelings and beliefs in direct, honest and appropriate ways.” It is important to note also that “By being assertive we should always respect the thoughts, feelings and beliefs of other people”During the assertiveness course you learn how to be more assertive and confident within yourself and recognise the difference between assertive and aggressive behaviour. You will create your own confidence building plan and gain the key skills required when dealing with difficult situations in an assertive way and learn how to say no.This course can be run on your premises or at our many UK training venues.What you learn:By the end of this assertiveness course and confidence building course you are able to:All underpinning knowledge and skills to deal with difficult situations effectively Ability to deliver assertive statements effectively Build your own self confidence Strength to say ‘no’ assertively During the course you cover:What is assertiveness Benefits of being assertive/confident Be assertive in the right situations Understand different levels of assertiveness Submissive/aggressive behaviours, their definition and body language The difference between submissive, aggressive and assertive behaviour Own personal communication style Planning and building your own confidence Be specific, stay relevant and achieve positive outcomes Barriers to assertiveness/ confidence Recognise and deal with fear Assertive/Confidence techniques Saying no assertively Persuasion skills and coping with criticism Listening skills What did you think?”Being part of a small group was much better than a big course with a high number of delegates – the trainer was excellent”Lucy Reeve – Natural History Museum”Dani is an experienced helpful trainer, and I would love to have her again”Jingjing Wang – Private Delegate”Excellent course, I have gained so much from this”Kelly Osborn – Dolphin Square FoundationDelivery Formats:All our in house training course are available to tailored to yours and your companies/delegates needs with our CTP (customised training programme) solution. Designed to meet any challenge or level required. Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #4 « Building Self Confidence Blog

21May/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #4I was listening to the BBC news last week and a journalist commented that one reason why there was such a cynical attitude to the EU in the UK is that we don’t think of ourselves as European. So we regard legislation coming out of Brussels as interference. I’m sure that debate will run and run but he definitely hit the nail on the head when he identified that how we think of ourselves is crucial to the successof our goals, our projects, our business, our career and our personal life.For example, the most successful business owners I’ve coached are the ones that first and foremost, grow to think of themselves as Entrepreneurswho happen to run a business providing a particular product or service, rather than thinking of themselves as primarily a Technical Expert related to the product or service they provide – whether they started out as a lawyer, accountant, a builder, graphic designer or….They are comfortable with being Marketers and Salespeople or at least make sure those things get done.The most successful owner managers and managers (and parents) I’ve coached are ones that think of themselves as Leaders and Empowerers of People For them, people problems are not things that get in the way of real work and life. They relish forging high performing teams and are fascinated by learning all they need to succeed.When I’ve coached individuals and teams in negotiation and influencing skills, I’ve often found they start out by thinking of a good Haggler as the person they need to be. During the programme they’ve discovered that Win-win Negotiator is a better person to be for creating effective and fulfilling work and personal relationships.How you think of yourself and the role models you choose influence all your actions, how you spend your time, the skills you are willing to invest in learning and ultimately your results and quality of life Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #1 « Building Self Confidence Blog

11May/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #1If you discover what will really makes you feel happy and successful and set business, career and personal goals you really care about (rather   than ones other people think you ought to achieve), then you’ll be less likely to procrastinate, more likely to succeed and more likely to enjoy your life when you achieve them.*************************If you’re in the mood for reflection and planning, this time of year is a great one for a life review. I’ve included below a Life Wheel exercise which will help you get clear about the business, career and personal goals you want to set.  Warm wishesMadeleineMadeleine Morgan Success Coach for ManagersLife Wheel ExerciseFor each section of the Wheel of Life:List the positive and negative aspects of your current situation. What are you putting up with? Continue reading

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