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Do the Things You're Not Comfortable With to Build Self-Esteem …

It’s important to do the things you’re not comfortable with to build self-esteem. That means stepping outside of your comfort zone and challenging yourself. Naturally, you may resist doing this because it might make you anxious, fearful or just plain uncomfortable. Stepping outside of your comfort zone does take effort and it might seem easier to do nothing. Continue reading

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7 Unconventional Ways to Build Your Confidence

If you were able to maintain a level of self-confidence that no circumstance could shake, what would you be doing differently?  Just imagine the things you would accomplish if you were confident that you COULD.This kind of confidence comes from positive self-imaging, and it is something that you can proactively build for yourself.  It doesn’t happen while you wait passively.  When you leave it up to external factors, you build your self-confidence on sandy ground.  What you need is a rock-solid foundation, and this only comes from building it from within.Plenty has been written about building self-confidence – creating a plan, setting goals, finding the right mentor, etc. – but today we’re going to take a look at seven ways that are not as widely discussed: Final Reminder:  We recently released the Audio Book for 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.  And we also have a limited time bundle of our eBook, audio book and bonus material on sale for a big discount.  Click here to check it out! 1.  Take chances that make you feel uncomfortable.The moment you doubt whether you can do something, you cease forever to be able to do it.  Don’t be afraid to feel uncomfortable.  Don’t be afraid to look uneasy and a little silly in front of others.Running around in your underwear isn’t the solution we’re talking about here, although I’m sure that would feel uncomfortable and look pretty silly.  What we are talking about is growing your inner strength and building your confidence by occasionally putting yourself in situations where you are forced to overcome new and unknown obstacles.It’s all about your commitment to learning, adapting and growing.  Decide that your visions and goals are more important than your self-imposed limitations.  Dare to try.  Step outside of your comfort zone.  Believe you can and you’re halfway there.  (Read Daring Greatly.)2.  Fail fast and fail often.You must encounter many defeats to learn how to not be defeated.  Failing is a process of learning; it helps you grow and know who you are, what you can rise from, and how you can still rise after you fall.  It is this process that boosts your confidence gradually over the course of your lifetime.You have to remember that it doesn’t matter how many times you fail or how slowly you go, so long as you do not stop taking steps forward.  In the end, those who don’t care that failure is inevitable are the ones that most often achieve success.3.  Be wrong and be OK with it.You don’t have to always be right, you just have to not be too worried about being wrong.Just like occasional failures, being wrong from time to time is inevitable.  People who take the position of always being right aren’t confident, they’re cocky.  They think they know everything and they want you to know it too.  Ironically, their need to always be right imprisons them from being able to learn from their mistakes.To build true confidence, you have to not mind being wrong.  You have to take a stand, and then admit it if and when you realize your standpoint is wrong.  It’s a process of trial and error that helps you discover what IS right.  And finding out what is right is a lot more important than always being right.Bottom line:  When you’re wrong, admit it and be secure enough to back down graciously, adjust and carry on.  (Read Carry On, Warrior.)4.  Compliment others and help them smile.The best part of life is not just surviving, but thriving with passion, compassion, humor, generosity and kindness, and using these tools to make the world a happier place.When we think negatively about ourselves, we typically project these feelings on to others in the form of insults, gossip and incidental neglect.  To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people.  If someone looks nice, tell them.  If someone does a good job, applaud them.  Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you.  In the process, you’ll help these people smile, which will help you feel good about yourself.By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.5.  Laugh in the face of frustration.The best medicine is a strong dose of laughter and letting go.When things don’t go as planned, laughing or crying are often the only two options left, because they are both instinctive human responses to frustration.  Both are OK, but laughing usually feels better.Sometimes a little self-invoked humor is all you need to lift your spirits and light the path forward.  Even in your darkest moments, strive to see the lighter side of a situation and crack a smile.  Doing so will help you think positively and reawaken your confidence about all the possibilities that still exist on the road ahead.6.  Ignore what most people think of you.How would your life be different if you stopped allowing people who don’t matter to poison your mind with their opinions?Do you have 5K Facebook friends and 20K Twitter follows?  Good for you.  Do you have a professional and personal social network of hundreds or even thousands?  That’s great.  Just don’t forget that this massive network of acquaintances pales in comparison to the importance of earning and maintaining the trust and respect of the few people in your life who actually matter – your close family members and real friends.  When you earn the trust and respect of these special people, no matter where you go or what you attempt to do, you will do it with a sense of confidence, because you will know the people who truly matter are truly behind you.Let today be the day you stand strong in the limelight of your own truth, without seeking needless external validation.  Accept no one’s definition of your life except your own, and seek approval only from the people who truly matter in your life.  (This is something Angel and I discuss in the Relationships and Self-Love chapters of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)7.  Begin right NOW.To resist at the beginning is always the easiest choice to make, and it’s also the only choice that guarantees you will never reach the end result you desire.Too often we fall victim to our own waiting.  We feel we have to wait for just the right moment:  To be promoted, to be appointed, to be ready, to be somehow chosen by the powers above, as if there will suddenly be a moment when everything makes perfect sense and the road to our dreams is effortless.But the truth is, it’s usually just a matter of thinking, “Why not me?  Why not now?”Right now, in today’s digital, interconnected world, you have access to everything you need.  You can connect with almost anyone you need to know through social media.  You can build your own relationships and professional networks.  You can design and create your own portfolio and products.  You can use blogging and content marketing to attract attention, customers and funding.  You can choose your own path – you can choose to follow whatever course you wish.Right now, without calling attention to yourself, you can begin to make things happen.  You can take a small step forward, and then another, and grow more capable and more confident with every new step you take.Your turn…Let’s revisit the question I opened this post with:  If you were able to maintain a level of self-confidence that no circumstance could shake, what would you be doing differently?Also, what would you add to the list?  What has helped you build your confidence?  Please let us know by leaving a comment below.Photo by: Akshay Moon If you enjoyed this article, please subscribe via email or RSS. Or for a powerful dose of inspiration download our new ebook.Possibly Related Posts:Knowledge and Confidence: Successful Together, Useless Apart Why Confidence Should Decrease as Knowledge Increases How To Avoid Confrontations Like a Samurai Warrior 9 Unconventional Habits of Extraordinary Success 9 Unconventional Ways to Let Go Filed under Aspirations, Hacks, Life Continue reading

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Twelve Things To Tell Your Child | EmKreifels

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25 Things I've Learned Over The Last 25 Years – Stuff Web

Click Here to Download This Post as PDF and Read it Later.So, since Yesterday (May 1st) was my 26th birthday, I decided to write a “What I’ve learned in the past 25 years”, but, because I’ve learned a LARGE number of things and I don’t feel like writing an autobiography, I’ve decided to limit it to 25 things; 1 for each year.Because organizing 25 things I’ve learned over the past 25 years can be a bit confusing, I’ve decided to put them into 3 sections; Personal, Business/Work, and Life Lessons.These are lessons that I’ve learned and try to apply in my daily lifePersonal and Family Lessons I’ve Learned1. Surround Yourself with People Smarter (and More Successful) Than YourselfSurrounding yourself with smarter, and more successful, people than yourself will allow you not only to learn from the people that surround you, but also will allow you to pick up successful habits; making you a better person.2. Self Confidence is The Key To Your XYZSelf-confidence is one of the strongest internal driving forces for a person. Continue reading

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Divorced…

It is unfair of me to assume that we all need truth in the same amounts and in the same ways. People are all in different stages in their lives at different times and I totally respect all of that. I am appreciative of all of the experiences that all of the different people that I have interacted with have given me. I am beginning to learn more and more about myself, -that you learn how to cope and deal with things at you as they come at you. Things have fallen apart repeatedly in my life and I am constantly whining about my “bad luck.” Take for instance the experience with my ex-husband Continue reading

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Finding Your Confidence in the Little Things | The Acorn Stash

Finding Your Confidence in the Little Things | The Acorn Stash When we think about building our self-confidence, it often seems like a huge task. If you’ve been beaten down so often that you have no sense of self left, trying to get it back can be a task that’s the equivalent of riding the entire Tour de France on a tricycle. It’s better to pick your battles and find your courage — and your confidence — in the little things. As you’ve no doubt heard before, there’s nothing wrong with baby steps, because with each baby step you take, you find a little more of the confidence you’re looking for. So what are some of these little things you can do to get your confidence back Continue reading

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Feeling Good, Doing Good Things: 6 Ways of Building a Super Self …

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Gewgaw Writings: Self Confidence: A Factor On How To Get Your …

Having self-confidence is an effective technique on how to get your ex boyfriend to want you back or how to get your boyfriend to want you back. If you lack confidence in your ability to be the best person around, then your quest to gain him back may be difficult to achieve.When you are confident, you exude it, and people around you will notice it. Confidence in a woman is even appealing to men more than the other aspects of your personality. Men like their women to be confident of themselves Continue reading

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CONFESSION: There’s a STRANGER in my house!

Do you feel as if you have lost yourself? Have you ever done so many things, for so long and then one day it HIT you that you weren’t “yourself” any longer? Have you forgotten who & whose your were? Are you just alive & camping out in a house (physical body) at which you don’t recognize anymore?If you can truthfully answer YES to any of those questions, then there is a strong possibility that you are now a stranger to yourself, and maybe even others. Continue reading

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Walking Forward to Let Go of the Past | Being Helena

Walking Forward to Let Go of the Past | Being Helena I signed up today to take part in the Freedom Walk being run by the local YWCA, and it got me thinking a lot about my past and how it has shaped me into not only the person I am today, but the person I want to become in the future as I rebuild my self-confidence and help other women do the same. I don’t talk much about my past, but it’s a big reason why I focus so much on building self-confidence and being your best self. I know what it’s like to have be beaten down so low that you feel worthless, and how hard it is to build yourself back up. As a survivor of domestic abuse, I am really grateful that places like Crossroads exist for women today Continue reading

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