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Do the Things You're Not Comfortable With to Build Self-Esteem …

It’s important to do the things you’re not comfortable with to build self-esteem. That means stepping outside of your comfort zone and challenging yourself. Naturally, you may resist doing this because it might make you anxious, fearful or just plain uncomfortable. Stepping outside of your comfort zone does take effort and it might seem easier to do nothing. Continue reading

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5 Ways to Build Children's Self-Esteem | World of Psychology

Parents tend to forget about the importance of self-esteem in their children’s lives. Great intelligence or talent may not come to full fruition in adulthood if self-esteem is lacking. That’s why it’s important for parents to take action early in their kids’ lives to ensure a healthy dose of self-confidence and high self-esteem.Here are five practical tips on how to build children’s self-esteem:1. Don’t be afraid to step back.  Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence Tip #18 « Building Self Confidence Blog

9Jul/13060 Seconds to Confidence Tip #18Recently, one of my new clients said, “The worst thing that can happen to a gambler is to win.”When gamblers win they often get an inflated idea of their ability to beat the odds. That’s how they lose a load of money, and other important things, in the long run.My client could see parallels with this gambling mindset and behaviour to his tendency to ‘wing it’, prepare at the last minute and talk his way out of trouble if he needed to.He realised that he had kidded himself that he was too creative and spontaneous to need or desire systems and planning. He thought that having systems would cramp his style and make life boring.Then something happened that made him admit he could be even more profitable and successful in his life if only he created successful systems for marketing, selling, leading his team, making sure he recharged his batteries etc. Systems would make his success more predictable, he would experience fewer nasty surprises and he would have time to be more creative rather than fighting fires. Continue reading

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10 Ways to Instantly Build Self Confidence | helpjuice.net

10 Ways to Instantly Build Self ConfidenceThis entry was posted by MrJuice on July 5, 2013 at 9:06 pmLearn to build self confidence with these 10 strategies. Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll succeed.Click here to read the full article0LikeSaveTags: build confidence, build self-esteem Categories: Emotions Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #16 « Building Self Confidence Blog

2Jul/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #16Do you remember last week I ask you if you remembered your parents ever saying to you, ‘Mind your language!’? I talked about how our language patterns can have a powerful effect on our motivation and confidence to resolve an issue.The reason why I’m mentioning it again is because our language patterns can also have a really powerful influence on the feelings of others and how resourceful and motivated they feel to resolve an issue.I remember when I was coaching a CEO to help him get the best out of his team, there was one session where he told me that he had started a senior management team meeting by saying, ‘We’ve just got to grind through these issues.’When I, curiously, asked him what kind of effect he thought those words had had on his senior management team, he stopped, paused and thought for a moment and then his inner light bulb flashed. He realised that his words acurately reflected how he was feeling but were not motivating to some of the team members who prefer to enjoy the journey of getting to a goal, even if it is challenging.Basically, I’m encouraging you to use whatever language influences your colleagues, friends, family, clients and suppliers to feel more resourceful and positive about getting something resolved or achieving a task.We cannot not communicate so have fun creating more uplifting language patterns and watch your personal, career and business success soar!Warm wishesMadeleineFiled under: 60 Seconds to ConfidenceLeave a comment Continue reading

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7 Unconventional Ways to Build Your Confidence

If you were able to maintain a level of self-confidence that no circumstance could shake, what would you be doing differently?  Just imagine the things you would accomplish if you were confident that you COULD.This kind of confidence comes from positive self-imaging, and it is something that you can proactively build for yourself.  It doesn’t happen while you wait passively.  When you leave it up to external factors, you build your self-confidence on sandy ground.  What you need is a rock-solid foundation, and this only comes from building it from within.Plenty has been written about building self-confidence – creating a plan, setting goals, finding the right mentor, etc. – but today we’re going to take a look at seven ways that are not as widely discussed: Final Reminder:  We recently released the Audio Book for 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.  And we also have a limited time bundle of our eBook, audio book and bonus material on sale for a big discount.  Click here to check it out! 1.  Take chances that make you feel uncomfortable.The moment you doubt whether you can do something, you cease forever to be able to do it.  Don’t be afraid to feel uncomfortable.  Don’t be afraid to look uneasy and a little silly in front of others.Running around in your underwear isn’t the solution we’re talking about here, although I’m sure that would feel uncomfortable and look pretty silly.  What we are talking about is growing your inner strength and building your confidence by occasionally putting yourself in situations where you are forced to overcome new and unknown obstacles.It’s all about your commitment to learning, adapting and growing.  Decide that your visions and goals are more important than your self-imposed limitations.  Dare to try.  Step outside of your comfort zone.  Believe you can and you’re halfway there.  (Read Daring Greatly.)2.  Fail fast and fail often.You must encounter many defeats to learn how to not be defeated.  Failing is a process of learning; it helps you grow and know who you are, what you can rise from, and how you can still rise after you fall.  It is this process that boosts your confidence gradually over the course of your lifetime.You have to remember that it doesn’t matter how many times you fail or how slowly you go, so long as you do not stop taking steps forward.  In the end, those who don’t care that failure is inevitable are the ones that most often achieve success.3.  Be wrong and be OK with it.You don’t have to always be right, you just have to not be too worried about being wrong.Just like occasional failures, being wrong from time to time is inevitable.  People who take the position of always being right aren’t confident, they’re cocky.  They think they know everything and they want you to know it too.  Ironically, their need to always be right imprisons them from being able to learn from their mistakes.To build true confidence, you have to not mind being wrong.  You have to take a stand, and then admit it if and when you realize your standpoint is wrong.  It’s a process of trial and error that helps you discover what IS right.  And finding out what is right is a lot more important than always being right.Bottom line:  When you’re wrong, admit it and be secure enough to back down graciously, adjust and carry on.  (Read Carry On, Warrior.)4.  Compliment others and help them smile.The best part of life is not just surviving, but thriving with passion, compassion, humor, generosity and kindness, and using these tools to make the world a happier place.When we think negatively about ourselves, we typically project these feelings on to others in the form of insults, gossip and incidental neglect.  To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people.  If someone looks nice, tell them.  If someone does a good job, applaud them.  Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you.  In the process, you’ll help these people smile, which will help you feel good about yourself.By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.5.  Laugh in the face of frustration.The best medicine is a strong dose of laughter and letting go.When things don’t go as planned, laughing or crying are often the only two options left, because they are both instinctive human responses to frustration.  Both are OK, but laughing usually feels better.Sometimes a little self-invoked humor is all you need to lift your spirits and light the path forward.  Even in your darkest moments, strive to see the lighter side of a situation and crack a smile.  Doing so will help you think positively and reawaken your confidence about all the possibilities that still exist on the road ahead.6.  Ignore what most people think of you.How would your life be different if you stopped allowing people who don’t matter to poison your mind with their opinions?Do you have 5K Facebook friends and 20K Twitter follows?  Good for you.  Do you have a professional and personal social network of hundreds or even thousands?  That’s great.  Just don’t forget that this massive network of acquaintances pales in comparison to the importance of earning and maintaining the trust and respect of the few people in your life who actually matter – your close family members and real friends.  When you earn the trust and respect of these special people, no matter where you go or what you attempt to do, you will do it with a sense of confidence, because you will know the people who truly matter are truly behind you.Let today be the day you stand strong in the limelight of your own truth, without seeking needless external validation.  Accept no one’s definition of your life except your own, and seek approval only from the people who truly matter in your life.  (This is something Angel and I discuss in the Relationships and Self-Love chapters of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)7.  Begin right NOW.To resist at the beginning is always the easiest choice to make, and it’s also the only choice that guarantees you will never reach the end result you desire.Too often we fall victim to our own waiting.  We feel we have to wait for just the right moment:  To be promoted, to be appointed, to be ready, to be somehow chosen by the powers above, as if there will suddenly be a moment when everything makes perfect sense and the road to our dreams is effortless.But the truth is, it’s usually just a matter of thinking, “Why not me?  Why not now?”Right now, in today’s digital, interconnected world, you have access to everything you need.  You can connect with almost anyone you need to know through social media.  You can build your own relationships and professional networks.  You can design and create your own portfolio and products.  You can use blogging and content marketing to attract attention, customers and funding.  You can choose your own path – you can choose to follow whatever course you wish.Right now, without calling attention to yourself, you can begin to make things happen.  You can take a small step forward, and then another, and grow more capable and more confident with every new step you take.Your turn…Let’s revisit the question I opened this post with:  If you were able to maintain a level of self-confidence that no circumstance could shake, what would you be doing differently?Also, what would you add to the list?  What has helped you build your confidence?  Please let us know by leaving a comment below.Photo by: Akshay Moon If you enjoyed this article, please subscribe via email or RSS. Or for a powerful dose of inspiration download our new ebook.Possibly Related Posts:Knowledge and Confidence: Successful Together, Useless Apart Why Confidence Should Decrease as Knowledge Increases How To Avoid Confrontations Like a Samurai Warrior 9 Unconventional Habits of Extraordinary Success 9 Unconventional Ways to Let Go Filed under Aspirations, Hacks, Life Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #15 « Building Self Confidence Blog

29Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #15Do you remember your parents ever saying to you, ‘Mind your language!’?They may have being referring to something they thought was rude or cheeky about what you said.The reason why they mentioned it and why I’m mentioning it now is because our language patterns can have a really powerful influence on our emotions.Of course there are the obvious things like self-criticism, blame or praise, but what I’m talking about is more subtle.If I say to you, ‘This sorting out your relationship or career or business issue…it’s going to be a problem,’ how do you feel?How does that feeling change if I say, ‘This sorting out your relationship, business or career issue…it’s going to be a challenge’?And what if I say, ‘This sorting out your relationship, business or career issue…it’s going to be an adventure.’ How do you feel now?I’ve found that most of my clients say they feel more positive about tackling the issues when I call it a challenge or an adventure. If you do too, then use those words!Basically, I’m encouraging you to use whatever language helps you to feel most resourceful and positive about getting something resolved. So, if you have become jaded with the politically correct use of the word ‘challenge’, then find your own empowering vocabulary.Have fun creating more uplifting language patterns for yourself and watch your personal, career and business success soar!Warm wishesMadeleineFiled under: 60 Seconds to ConfidenceLeave a comment Continue reading

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being extremely self-centered – Uncommon Forum

Connect with Uncommon Knowledge Facebook Twitter Email Confidence and Self Esteem Resources Free 6-part self confidence courseConfidence and self esteem articlesConfidence can be learned (article)What is ‘low self esteem’? (article)Self Confidence Trainer CDConfidence Booster hypnosis downloadSelf Esteem hypnosis download Discussion Forums PsychologyDepressionAnxiety and Panic AttacksAnger ManagementAddictionsEating DisordersPublic SpeakingWorkplace PsychologySelf Esteem and ConfidenceRelationshipsHypnosisPractitioners’ LoungeEmotional IntelligenceLight Lounge Author Thread sesil1Junior MemberJoined: 04 Feb 2012Posts: 34 Fri May 31, 2013 12:05 am being extremely self-centered Hello!Could you please give me some advice on how to become less self-centered? I realize that this is a bit paradoxical request, as I am at the same time asking other people to concern themselves with my problems, but I just can’t cope with this alone and this worries me a lot. I am 24 years old and I am very self-centred. I don’t want to be that way Continue reading

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8 Reasons Your Customers Don't Care – EyesOnSales

Related StoriesValue Selling: Getting Customers…Six Steps You Can Take to…Selling Value When Customers…Improving Communications…Fire Your Customers: How…If you want to close more sales, you better first do something about these 8 reasons your customers don’t care:1. Why should they care about you when you don’t care about them?Don’t even try faking it. If you do try to fake that you care, your customer will throw you out even faster. Successful salespeople care about their customers.2. There is no difference between what you’re selling and what your competitor is selling.If you can’t come up with at least 5 reasons why you’re different than your competitor, then how will you ever expect the customer to buy from you?3. Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #12 « Building Self Confidence Blog

18Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #12A friend of mine told me he was going to a business conference. When he got back, I asked him how it went. He said, ‘It was just how I thought it would be…boring, lonely and a complete waste of time.His experience reminded me of a valuable thing to remember:‘Thoughts can become things, so choose the good ones!’Did my friend’s thoughts become self-fulfilling? I wonder if there were other people who went home after that conference energised and inspired having found interesting things to do and people to meet?But…if you’ve ever tried consistently to think positively, you’ll probably be saying to yourself, ‘Thinking positively is easier said than done!’ After all, we tend to be surrounded by bad news. We’re more wired to see obstacles and things that are wrong than opportunities and things that are right. Continue reading

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