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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #16 « Building Self Confidence Blog

2Jul/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #16Do you remember last week I ask you if you remembered your parents ever saying to you, ‘Mind your language!’? I talked about how our language patterns can have a powerful effect on our motivation and confidence to resolve an issue.The reason why I’m mentioning it again is because our language patterns can also have a really powerful influence on the feelings of others and how resourceful and motivated they feel to resolve an issue.I remember when I was coaching a CEO to help him get the best out of his team, there was one session where he told me that he had started a senior management team meeting by saying, ‘We’ve just got to grind through these issues.’When I, curiously, asked him what kind of effect he thought those words had had on his senior management team, he stopped, paused and thought for a moment and then his inner light bulb flashed. He realised that his words acurately reflected how he was feeling but were not motivating to some of the team members who prefer to enjoy the journey of getting to a goal, even if it is challenging.Basically, I’m encouraging you to use whatever language influences your colleagues, friends, family, clients and suppliers to feel more resourceful and positive about getting something resolved or achieving a task.We cannot not communicate so have fun creating more uplifting language patterns and watch your personal, career and business success soar!Warm wishesMadeleineFiled under: 60 Seconds to ConfidenceLeave a comment Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #15 « Building Self Confidence Blog

29Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #15Do you remember your parents ever saying to you, ‘Mind your language!’?They may have being referring to something they thought was rude or cheeky about what you said.The reason why they mentioned it and why I’m mentioning it now is because our language patterns can have a really powerful influence on our emotions.Of course there are the obvious things like self-criticism, blame or praise, but what I’m talking about is more subtle.If I say to you, ‘This sorting out your relationship or career or business issue…it’s going to be a problem,’ how do you feel?How does that feeling change if I say, ‘This sorting out your relationship, business or career issue…it’s going to be a challenge’?And what if I say, ‘This sorting out your relationship, business or career issue…it’s going to be an adventure.’ How do you feel now?I’ve found that most of my clients say they feel more positive about tackling the issues when I call it a challenge or an adventure. If you do too, then use those words!Basically, I’m encouraging you to use whatever language helps you to feel most resourceful and positive about getting something resolved. So, if you have become jaded with the politically correct use of the word ‘challenge’, then find your own empowering vocabulary.Have fun creating more uplifting language patterns for yourself and watch your personal, career and business success soar!Warm wishesMadeleineFiled under: 60 Seconds to ConfidenceLeave a comment Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #14 « Building Self Confidence Blog

25Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #14If you are finding that Procrastination is a thief of your success in any area of your personal, business or career life, this week’s tip will be helpful to you.Think of one task or goal you keep procrastinating about and, with that task in mind, take this procrastination busting test:Is the task really a project? Should it be chunked down into more manageable activities? How important is it that you do it? Could or should it be delegated? Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #13 « Building Self Confidence Blog

22Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #13Research shows that if you want to build your personal, career or business success on firm foundations, you need to know when you’ve done a good job.Did you know that individuals vary in the way they are convinced about whether they’ve done a good job?For instance, I’ve coached clients who know they’ve done a good job only because they get confirmation from outside themselves – for instance a good appraisal, testimonial or positive feedback from someone else. These people find it very hard to think or feel they’ve done a good job if they don’t get this external feedback. They often lack confidence when they are in a work environment or have relationships where others only give feedback when something is wrong. They may under-estimate their abilities and achievements. Or… they may become arrogant when they receive too much unrealistic praise.While it’s good to get a reality check by seeking outside feedback about our successes, the usefulness of that feedback can depend on how well qualified the person giving it is – and how skilled they are at being constructive.Other people I’ve coached know they’ve done a good job because they have strong inner standards they set for themselves. Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #12 « Building Self Confidence Blog

18Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #12A friend of mine told me he was going to a business conference. When he got back, I asked him how it went. He said, ‘It was just how I thought it would be…boring, lonely and a complete waste of time.His experience reminded me of a valuable thing to remember:‘Thoughts can become things, so choose the good ones!’Did my friend’s thoughts become self-fulfilling? I wonder if there were other people who went home after that conference energised and inspired having found interesting things to do and people to meet?But…if you’ve ever tried consistently to think positively, you’ll probably be saying to yourself, ‘Thinking positively is easier said than done!’ After all, we tend to be surrounded by bad news. We’re more wired to see obstacles and things that are wrong than opportunities and things that are right. Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #11 « Building Self Confidence Blog

15Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #11A regular reader of these tips asked me to talk about how to maintain a positive mood at work when the team is feeling dispirited. Her request reminded me of an amazing story…One way I’ve helped clients and teams to enjoy their work is to coach them understand how to choose how they feel about their circumstances.A famous example of how choosing your attitude can determine your altitude is The Pike Plaice Fish Company in Seattle. This humble market stall was going bankrupt. The owner and his team felt they were just insignificant fish sellers being buffeted by economic circumstances which were way out of their control.That was until they decided to create their own mood and jazz up the way they sell fish.Now thousands of people visit the stall every day to enjoy the uplifting and humorous buying experience the fishmongers provide. The team members feel a great sense of purpose, their customers love them and their business is booming.The Pike Plaice Fish Company in Seattle has become world famous. Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #7 « Building Self Confidence Blog

1Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #7Do you have all the energy and motivation you need or are you feeling pressure or stress? If you want less stress, this week’s tips could help.Take some time to make a list of what drains you and what energises you.Sometimes things can appear on both sides of your list.For instance, family, friends, clients, employees and colleagues can appear as drains or energisers depending on who they are and how they interact with you… or you with them.Another example…moderate exercise can be an energiser activating the ‘happy’ chemicals in your brain and raising your stamina. Excessive exercise can wear you out in an already busy life.What are you putting up with that drains your energy? Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #6 « Building Self Confidence Blog

28May/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #6Have you noticed how as individuals, groups, organisations and even nations we seem to over-complicate things – even when we say we want to make things simpler?I was recently reminded of the story about the early days in the Space Race between the United States and the Soviet Union, both of whom were desperately trying to be the first to to land a spacecraft on the moon.A key to making this happen was the gathering of quality information. The astronauts played a vital part in gathering and, most of all, recording this information.But they hit a problem. When there is no gravity the ink in pens could not flow. This was a major challenge to be solved Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #3 « Building Self Confidence Blog

18May/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #3Because our thoughts guide our actions and our actions get us results, if you think what you’ve always thought, you’ll find that you’ll get what you’ve always got.When you weed out limiting beliefs and thoughts, you’ll gain a massive amount of energy, inspiration and time to succeed in your business, career and personal life.What do limiting beliefs sound like? Well they go through your head in a critical, negative or anxious tone. They sometimes get louder when we’re about to step out of our comfort zone. Continue reading

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