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Dealing with discouragement…..

I have a hard time with discouragement. In a completely different way but much the same as my lack of self confidence…. I know this relates closely to my upbringing and the depths of my abuse, but it is still are hard pill to swallow when I am feeling so much control and self confidence building within me. Rationally or irrationally, I always feel as if people I am close with are conspiring against me… Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #5 « Building Self Confidence Blog

25May/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #5Valentine’s Day has got me thinking about love – whether we call it romance, connection, rapport, understanding, team spirit, appreciation, caring, customer service or…?So much of our success in our business, career and personal lives depends on how much love we have in our lives, so here are some ways to increase that precious thing.I don’t know about you, but I often feel more love when I give more love whether that’s:A kiss and a Valentine’s Day card for my husband Thanking a supplier for their exceptional service and how they’ve helped me – perhaps writing a testimonial for them or recommending them to others Going out of my way to connect two people in my contact sphere so they can benefit in their business, career or personal life Remembering a client’s birthday or going the extra mile for them Keeping in touch with relatives and friends even when I’m really busy Supporting a good cause Doing a good deed for a stranger Reflecting back to friends, colleagues, and others, their great qualities Listening openly, supportively and non-judgementally Looking after myself – my health and well being so that I can feel the rewards of my hard work and have the energy to keep giving. Allowing myself to accept the love and support of others. The list could be endless. The powerful thing is that the more we sincerely give, the more comes back to us.How will you increase the love in your life today and all your days to come?Happy Valentine’s Day!Warm wishesMadeleineFiled under: 60 Seconds to ConfidenceLeave a comment Continue reading

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Emotional Abuse: The Quiet Killer

 “Emotional violence is another kind of abuse … it’s not about words because an emotionally abusive person doesn’t always resort to using the verbal club, but rather the verbal untraceable poison.”  ~ Augusten BurroughsIt was after reading the above passage in a book I recently completed by Augusten Burroughs that I stopped dead in my tracks.  Emotional abuse?  This concept was something completely new to me.  The words settled like lead inside of my head.  What I had discovered in those precise few moments, was the exact description for the subtle abuse I was, and still am, facing from my estranged parents.  I read on: They may, in fact, speak very kind words to you.  And appear nothing but supportive to those around you.  Their covert abuse is administered in small, cunning ways over time.  So the impact is gradual, not fist-to-the-eye immediate. What struck me about this quote is the fact that emotional abusers are very passive, very subtle, very quiet.  I would even go so far as saying … very introverted in their approach.  This single moment led me to wonder: is this the introvert’s favored form of abuse?  And also … do I unwittingly border on emotional abuse when I’m upset with someone?  And also … who else shows signs of being emotionally abusive in my life?  I know, I know, it all sounds very intense and extreme, doesn’t it?  Guess that’s just me.The tricky thing with emotional abuse like anything quiet and unobtrusive, is that it can be overlooked easily, blending into the background of life.  Luckily however, it can lead traces of something “not being quite right” in your relationships – something wrong that you just can’t quite put your finger on.My hope is that this article will help introduce, or reintroduce, you to the world of emotional abuse.  If you do decide to continue reading, please consider introspecting and reflecting on yourself and the people in your life.  It could make all the difference in the world.Emotional Abuse: The Devil’s Quiet SisterEmotional abuse is also known as psychological or mental abuse.  It’s aim is to control, belittle, isolate and shame other people into subservience.  This happens little by little overtime, so that the victim’s sense of self-worth, self-confidence, self-concept and own ideas and perceptions erode.Many emotional abusers operate under the guise that they are “teaching”, “advising”, “correcting”, and/or “guiding”, and therefore fly under the radar, spreading their poison for years upon years. Types Of Emotional AbuseEmotional abuse rarely just involves criticisms or put-downs.  I’ve listed some more kinds of abuse below that you should be wary of.  Also, be a bit careful when you read this list.  For instance, you may find one or two symptoms of emotional abuse apparent in your life, but it doesn’t necessarily make your relationships absolutely and utterly emotionally abusive.  The more symptoms you recognize, the more likely you’re experiencing emotional abuse.1.  Control and Domination.They may control your money and your spending. They may treat you as an inferior person. They may make you feel small by reminding you of your faults and shortcomings Continue reading

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How To Project Self-Confidence in an Interview – building Self …

Now you have written an amazing cover letter. Your resume, was simply perfect. All the emails you have sent your perspective employer have been flawless. Now it is your time to shine. Continue reading

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Dress for Success. A good fit for financially troubled women. – For …

Financial Coaching: Dress for Success. A good fit for financially troubled women.I was reminded this week about a Toronto charity that is doing something quite interesting, and altogether admirable. It is called Dress for Success, which has devoted itself to helping unemployed and financially troubled women look and feel good during one of life’s biggest make or break moments – namely, interviewing for a job.Actually, Dress for Success features a five-step process that greatly empowers women as they seek and undertake new employment opportunities.The process begins with what is called “interview suiting” wherein women in need receive for free two formal outfits to prepare for upcoming job interviews. Not only that, but volunteer stylists work with each woman to select clothing that serves the dual purpose of reflecting individual style while at the same time promoting a smart professional image.Now, if anyone out there thinks this sort of support sounds rather “decadent” insofar as charity work is concerned, I say think again Continue reading

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Stop Self-Doubt in Its Tracks and Build Self-Confidence | Psychology …

Way too many people walk through life carrying the heavy weight of self-doubt. Deep down, they fear that they are missing some essential quality that would make them truly successful socially (worthy of love) or in other aspects of life (e.g. professionally, sports). They worry about friends and loved ones leaving them; or thinking less of them because of something they’ve done or failed to do. Continue reading

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Building Your Self Confidence – AloneinHome

In moving towards success in your life, gaining self confidence is a crucial step that you must done. As self confidence differentiates between feeling relentless and feeling scared within your mind, your perception of yourself has an monumental impact on how others understand you.Perception is reality. The more self esteem you have, the higher possibility that you have to succeed! Although there are many factors affecting self confidence which are beyond your control, there are a number of things that you will consciously do in building your self confidence.Overcoming ShynessBelieve it or not, shyness is a major handicap for successful communication thus action is needed to overcome this problem. Learning various skills is a powerful strategy to build your self confidence thus you can become comfortable in social situations Continue reading

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Topic: Build your self confidence with who I am quotes – Cozmoslabs

jaime11 It usually happens when you got attracted with the person who is much good looking and has more charming personality as compare to you. In such case you feel some what insecure towards your lover or boyfriend; you start becoming possessive for him. You get scared that some other girl may not steal your lover from you. Continue reading

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7 days 7 ways to BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE

A LITTLE KICK-START FOR THE WEEK AHEAD…Psychologist Cynthia Hickman shares some simple ways to boost your self confidence ~ starting with one thought for each day of the week.MONDAY The cliche “look good, feel good” is actually true. If your appearance looks confident and at ease, your feelings will follow. So it’s important to pay attention to your appearance including your fitness, grooming and clothes. And keep the environment around you clean and ordered. Continue reading

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Self-Confidence and Self-Belief

About MeBHERVVI DIVINE LOVE BLISS, HAPPINESS, India Hi I made the blogs specially for people; who ; like me love the self-growth ,metaphysical stuff, I like to share what I discovered and all which helped me so much and which makes me feel good .. … …I am sure it will be helpful to quite … I certainly love the collection…Some of the things I have taken from some other wonderful creators Teachers and writers;not only to make the blog interesting but also because whenever I want to be back with the stuff I do not have keep searching for the links later where I found the interesting stuff (You may see the credits to the concerned Party is Given)… Continue reading

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