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7 Unconventional Ways to Build Your Confidence

If you were able to maintain a level of self-confidence that no circumstance could shake, what would you be doing differently?  Just imagine the things you would accomplish if you were confident that you COULD.This kind of confidence comes from positive self-imaging, and it is something that you can proactively build for yourself.  It doesn’t happen while you wait passively.  When you leave it up to external factors, you build your self-confidence on sandy ground.  What you need is a rock-solid foundation, and this only comes from building it from within.Plenty has been written about building self-confidence – creating a plan, setting goals, finding the right mentor, etc. – but today we’re going to take a look at seven ways that are not as widely discussed: Final Reminder:  We recently released the Audio Book for 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.  And we also have a limited time bundle of our eBook, audio book and bonus material on sale for a big discount.  Click here to check it out! 1.  Take chances that make you feel uncomfortable.The moment you doubt whether you can do something, you cease forever to be able to do it.  Don’t be afraid to feel uncomfortable.  Don’t be afraid to look uneasy and a little silly in front of others.Running around in your underwear isn’t the solution we’re talking about here, although I’m sure that would feel uncomfortable and look pretty silly.  What we are talking about is growing your inner strength and building your confidence by occasionally putting yourself in situations where you are forced to overcome new and unknown obstacles.It’s all about your commitment to learning, adapting and growing.  Decide that your visions and goals are more important than your self-imposed limitations.  Dare to try.  Step outside of your comfort zone.  Believe you can and you’re halfway there.  (Read Daring Greatly.)2.  Fail fast and fail often.You must encounter many defeats to learn how to not be defeated.  Failing is a process of learning; it helps you grow and know who you are, what you can rise from, and how you can still rise after you fall.  It is this process that boosts your confidence gradually over the course of your lifetime.You have to remember that it doesn’t matter how many times you fail or how slowly you go, so long as you do not stop taking steps forward.  In the end, those who don’t care that failure is inevitable are the ones that most often achieve success.3.  Be wrong and be OK with it.You don’t have to always be right, you just have to not be too worried about being wrong.Just like occasional failures, being wrong from time to time is inevitable.  People who take the position of always being right aren’t confident, they’re cocky.  They think they know everything and they want you to know it too.  Ironically, their need to always be right imprisons them from being able to learn from their mistakes.To build true confidence, you have to not mind being wrong.  You have to take a stand, and then admit it if and when you realize your standpoint is wrong.  It’s a process of trial and error that helps you discover what IS right.  And finding out what is right is a lot more important than always being right.Bottom line:  When you’re wrong, admit it and be secure enough to back down graciously, adjust and carry on.  (Read Carry On, Warrior.)4.  Compliment others and help them smile.The best part of life is not just surviving, but thriving with passion, compassion, humor, generosity and kindness, and using these tools to make the world a happier place.When we think negatively about ourselves, we typically project these feelings on to others in the form of insults, gossip and incidental neglect.  To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people.  If someone looks nice, tell them.  If someone does a good job, applaud them.  Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you.  In the process, you’ll help these people smile, which will help you feel good about yourself.By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.5.  Laugh in the face of frustration.The best medicine is a strong dose of laughter and letting go.When things don’t go as planned, laughing or crying are often the only two options left, because they are both instinctive human responses to frustration.  Both are OK, but laughing usually feels better.Sometimes a little self-invoked humor is all you need to lift your spirits and light the path forward.  Even in your darkest moments, strive to see the lighter side of a situation and crack a smile.  Doing so will help you think positively and reawaken your confidence about all the possibilities that still exist on the road ahead.6.  Ignore what most people think of you.How would your life be different if you stopped allowing people who don’t matter to poison your mind with their opinions?Do you have 5K Facebook friends and 20K Twitter follows?  Good for you.  Do you have a professional and personal social network of hundreds or even thousands?  That’s great.  Just don’t forget that this massive network of acquaintances pales in comparison to the importance of earning and maintaining the trust and respect of the few people in your life who actually matter – your close family members and real friends.  When you earn the trust and respect of these special people, no matter where you go or what you attempt to do, you will do it with a sense of confidence, because you will know the people who truly matter are truly behind you.Let today be the day you stand strong in the limelight of your own truth, without seeking needless external validation.  Accept no one’s definition of your life except your own, and seek approval only from the people who truly matter in your life.  (This is something Angel and I discuss in the Relationships and Self-Love chapters of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)7.  Begin right NOW.To resist at the beginning is always the easiest choice to make, and it’s also the only choice that guarantees you will never reach the end result you desire.Too often we fall victim to our own waiting.  We feel we have to wait for just the right moment:  To be promoted, to be appointed, to be ready, to be somehow chosen by the powers above, as if there will suddenly be a moment when everything makes perfect sense and the road to our dreams is effortless.But the truth is, it’s usually just a matter of thinking, “Why not me?  Why not now?”Right now, in today’s digital, interconnected world, you have access to everything you need.  You can connect with almost anyone you need to know through social media.  You can build your own relationships and professional networks.  You can design and create your own portfolio and products.  You can use blogging and content marketing to attract attention, customers and funding.  You can choose your own path – you can choose to follow whatever course you wish.Right now, without calling attention to yourself, you can begin to make things happen.  You can take a small step forward, and then another, and grow more capable and more confident with every new step you take.Your turn…Let’s revisit the question I opened this post with:  If you were able to maintain a level of self-confidence that no circumstance could shake, what would you be doing differently?Also, what would you add to the list?  What has helped you build your confidence?  Please let us know by leaving a comment below.Photo by: Akshay Moon If you enjoyed this article, please subscribe via email or RSS. Or for a powerful dose of inspiration download our new ebook.Possibly Related Posts:Knowledge and Confidence: Successful Together, Useless Apart Why Confidence Should Decrease as Knowledge Increases How To Avoid Confrontations Like a Samurai Warrior 9 Unconventional Habits of Extraordinary Success 9 Unconventional Ways to Let Go Filed under Aspirations, Hacks, Life Continue reading

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Building self-confidence | Jerry R Mitchell's Blog

Last week as I was networking with several entrepreneurs at a local restaurant the theme song from the “Rocky” movie was being played.  I foolishly told every one that I worked out to that song.  After explaining my past boxing career and how it helped me to build my confidence I thought I could finish my meal in peace. The entrepreneurs wanted more questions answered and as I discussed self-confidence and how one built it an idea for an article flashed before my eyes.We learned it as a little kid-home-court advantage; it’s nothing to be taken lightly.  Maybe you got your first taste of it at a piano recital or an elementary school sporting event, where the place was packed with your supporters.  Just about everyone but the family dog was there, plus a couple of neighbors, and you knew that a bunch of the other kids’ parents were rooting for you too.  So how could you lose?  How could you do anything but perform at your very best under those circumstances?Consider the opposite situation.  It’s the Chicago vs. New York boxing championships.  I’m expected to have a tooth-and-nail battle with the New York champion, and I’m in his city.  Chicago and his have a long history of ethnic clashes and the like (Irish VS Italian).  And since cultural niceties in New York don’t include restraining oneself when expressing political and cultural preferences, every time I come out of my corner, the crowd boos, shouts and curses me-to the point where a riot seems inevitable.  It continues through each round, a situation that’s hardly conducive to success, right?  How could anyone expect you to succeed in an adversarial environment like that?Recent psychological research has shown that as comforting as it might have been to have your grandmother at your side during that solo that really isn’t the way to produce the top performance.  In fact, hostile audiences can actually bring out your best.Research psychologists have studied skilled performances and what happens when you have hostile strangers or family and friends in the audience. Common sense dictates that you’d obviously do better in front of the supportive audience and you’d probably also think that the effect would be more pronounced with a high- skill task than with a low-skill task.  In fact, research indicates the opposite, so even though the people who had the support of friends during their task experienced less stress than those who had to perform in front of hostile strangers, the second group produced better performances and got through the task faster.  Talk about turning a negative into a positive.Explanations for those results suggest that perhaps when you face a crowd of friendly faces, you might simply choke from the pressure of trying to please them.  When you face a hostile crowd, though, you might feel that you have nothing to lose, so you take risks that pay off in better performance.  Some people can simply draw on the negative energy generated by the hostile crowd, harnessing it to produce better results.On the day of the competition I felt that I was in the middle of the arena awaiting the emperor’s sign to decide my fate.  It’s not quite that dramatic or quite that hostile, but I sure was not in the thick of things with my best friends.  The crowd might not behave by throwing chairs at me, but if words and looks could kill, I would be pushing up daisies.I didn’t let it get under my skin, however, and to throw the hostile audience a curve, I politely smiled, bowed and waved to the spectators before ripping a combination of punches to their champion in a way that left even me stunned.  I acted as if I did it every day, sometimes maybe even before breakfast, and they go silent.  They don’t know quite what to make of me.  On the other hand, I knew that I had a secret, how to use their hostility for my good.  I also knew that the moment was mine, so instead of putting on a boxing exhibition I went for the knockout.  I’m definitely in the zone.I figure I may as well go for it, so I pulled out all the stops.  By the time the contest was over, I had the fans’ hero on the floor, and even though they may still hate my guts, I’ve not only won the contest, but I’ve also used their hostility to help me do it.  This time when I smiled and bowed, I knew that I really owed them a lot, even if they don’t have a clue that they helped me beat their champion.  Neat trick.In my entrepreneurial life often times I was in hostile territory. Starting new industries requires thick skin because everyone keeps telling you that what you want to accomplish is impossible.Share and Enjoy: These icons link to social bookmarking sites where readers can share and discover new web pages Continue reading

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Empowering Your Life Through Meditation and Reiki at SoulCentre Personal Development Centre

Learn Meditation and Reiki at SoulCentre, Singapore, Asia’s premier personal development centre, and guide your life to happiness and awareness.This may be the quintessential ideal that My Happy Path is built around…Imagine an organization that interlaced meditation, reiki and life empowerment activities into a teaching center that helped us connect with and create our highest potential. Well, may we introduce to you SoulCentre!This beautiful embodiment of positivity embraces and puts to work so many of the belief systems that My Happy Path is built upon. Based in Singapore, the creators, world renowned author and life coach, Vikas Malkani and Reiki Master, Sally Forrest, are interlinking the tools of happiness into a tangible stage for creating our highest self.The center is broken down into three parts:Meditation: The SoulCentre meditation aspect, built on Vikas Malkani’s expertise, helps people learn the basics of the practice and then offers a platform to go deeper if so wished. Beyond learning meditation in such a way that it can be easily accessed to promote daily happiness, SoulCentre also offers a teachers program to assist in passing on the gift of meditation worldwide Continue reading

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How To Be Confident: 5 Tips On How To Build Self Discipline

Regular readers of my blog will detect a bit of a theme developing here – yesterday’s offering dealt with how you can make small changes that result in better concentration skills and today I thought I’d continue the idea with these 5 tips on how you can build up your self-discipline.Concentration and self-discipline go hand in hand and are two sides of the same coin. Both will allow you to boost your productivity, no matter what the task in hand, and both will underpin your efforts to build your levels of confidence and self-esteem.So if you find yourself struggling to live a confident life and still have feelings of low self-worth, why not change your approach and start attacking the problem from the other end? Learn how to build self-discipline and strengthen your powers of concentration and you’ll find that self-confidence and self-esteem come to join the party of their own accord!Tips On How To Build Self DisciplineA lot of people often feel discipline is the absence of freedom. Continue reading

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How To Be Confident: 5 Practical Ways To Build Self Confidence

“How can I build my self confidence?”This is perhaps the single most commonly asked question I come across and one that seems to be asked by most people at one time or another.One interesting fact about self confidence is that it isn’t a static thing – it changes in intensity over time. It is also perfectly possible to be confident in one area of your life yet anxious and unsure in another.In the guest article below, you can learn five useful ways to overcome your feelings of low confidence, whether in response to certain situations or when your courage seems to have packed up and left home.Whatever your circumstances, take note of the advice below and call upon it when ever you need to.5 Practical Ways To Build Self ConfidenceSelf confidence and success belong in the same system. Confidence comes from success. Continue reading

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Self Confidence Building Courses Can Increase Your Happiness …

The Self Confidence Building Course That Can Increase Your Happiness For Good Posted April 3rd, 2012 by Great Leap & filed under change your life, Confidence Courses, confidence programs, self improvment. Confidence Building Course – Build Confidence and Stay Happy The Self Confidence Building Course That Can Increase Your Happiness? Our self confidence building course is run as a combination of workshops, one to ones, and one off projects, to build confidence and measure tangible results in the people we help as they complete their program. Continue reading

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