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..At our highest self-esteemWhen we are born we have high self-esteem (well at least I assume we do).   The sun rises and sets on us, our crying brings immediate results.  With questions, ” What is wrong with the baby?”  Do they not try to do whatever it takes to alleviate  our needs?  Pretty powerful, since we can’t talk!On the declineThen comes the day when our crying falls on deaf ears and no one comes running to attend to our biggest burning desire.  The reality of the rude awakening and we cry ourselves to sleep.  Slowly but surely we are put in our position or “pecking order” as one might say.  Our self-esteem continues to be challenged within the family unit and then also in school.Others are not so inclined to think we are so wonderful.  The spoiled child usually doesn’t fair well in the real world, although at home they have pretty much control of the situation.As we get older many masquerade around with what appears to be all the self-esteem anybody could desire.  But deep down inside they are fragile, trying hard to please others and be well liked, all in order to protect their self-esteem.Others handle this lack of self-esteem by being a bully, bossy or just plain rude.  They hide what they can’t face about who they have become.Low self-esteem can also come in the form of stealing, lying or even bad habits.  Which left in it’s worst form can result in destruction of relationships with family and friends.  It can also result into financial and physical hardships.Example is the alcoholic that loses job, family, friends, home and possibly freedom.  Or the woman who constantly finds or stays with abusive men.  It is not about picking the wrong man as so much as they don’t believe that they deserve better.If we were raised in a self-esteem destroying family we are subject to repeat it in some way or other.  By finding others to do it to us or by doing it to ourselves.  Many families are dysfunctional and the children have to rise above this to conquer the demons.  I don’t imagine there are very many people in this world that have such high self-esteem that they are not bothered by what others think.  The ones that have got to that level probably had to achieve it by learning how to dismiss the negative feedback.  Of course there maybe some that have been sheltered from all forms of criticism, but I don’t think they are living in our world.  The world we go out and face each day as one stranger to another.So how do you go about undoing the years of damage to our self-esteem.  Perhaps we have to find the cause first, finding the sources for how we came to this point in our life.  Parents usually do the best they can with what they know and if their own self-esteem has been compromised throughout their own life how can we expect anything better from them.  The cycle stops at some point or it just continues generation after generation.Can you stop the cycle? It is possible but you have to recognize the issue first.  You get your self-esteem back by building self-confidence with who you are, what you do and what you believe.  Dr. Robert Anthony has this great test that you can take on  “How to Measure Your Current Level of Self-Confidence With 100% Accuracy”.  You can go to this page and click on the banner and watch the video and sign up for the information.  It is very informative as to where you are in your life and what you can do to change to more of what you really want.See disclosure statementPhoto credit:  FreeDigitalPhotos.net Continue reading →