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Dealing with discouragement…..

I have a hard time with discouragement. In a completely different way but much the same as my lack of self confidence…. I know this relates closely to my upbringing and the depths of my abuse, but it is still are hard pill to swallow when I am feeling so much control and self confidence building within me. Rationally or irrationally, I always feel as if people I am close with are conspiring against me… Continue reading

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How to Discover Your Inner Courage and Build Your Self Confidence

You are here: Home / Featured / How to Discover Your Inner Courage and Build Your Self ConfidenceHow to Discover Your Inner Courage and Build Your Self ConfidencePosted by Dr. Irene on June 7, 2013 · Leave a CommentBy Jay P. Granat, Ph.D. –“I hate my job and my boss, but I’m afraid to look for another job.”“My husband has been cheating on me for years, but I am financially dependent on him. I’m too scared to leave.”“I play great in practice, but when the pressure is on in a big game, I get scared and choke.”“I would love to meet somebody special, but when I go to a party or a social event, I hide in the corner and hope that no one approaches me.”“I would love to move to Arizona, but I am terrified of leaving my family here in New Jersey.”As therapists, we spend a lot of time encouraging people and helping them to face and overcome their fears. Continue reading

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60 Seconds to Confidence tip #9 « Building Self Confidence Blog

8Jun/13060 Seconds to Confidence tip #9If you’re feeling like you’re in a ‘double bind’ at the moment, this week’s tip could be timely.What do I mean by a ‘double bind’?Well, if you feel you’re in a situation where whatever you do or whatever direction you take, there will be some pain attached so you slide into inaction and procrastination – that’s a ‘double bind’.Here are some ‘double binds’ my clients have expressed recently:I need to make more sales but I hate selling’ I want to be a strong leader who my team respects but I don’t like being aggressive’ ‘I need to earn more money but I don’t want to lose the quality time I spend with my partner’ ‘I ought to leave this difficult relationship but I’m worried I’ll regret doing that’ ‘I should go for a promotion but I’m anxious that I won’t be able to manage the responsibility and decision making’ ‘I need to have a difficult conversation with him but I’m afraid I’ll mess it up and he’ll blow up in my face’ One way to deal with a ‘double bind’ is to ask yourself a question that begins with ‘How can I…?’ and that also has in it an assumption that the double bind can be resolved.For example:‘How can I make more sales while enjoying selling?’ or ‘How can I earn more money and still have lots of quality time with my partner?’These are solution-focussed and open questions that unlock the creativity and resources of our brains, our ‘neck-top computers’.The answers may not appear immediately but they could well pop up when you least expect them – such as when your hands are busy and your mind is free, like when gardening or out on a walk. I often get those ideas when I’m in that state between being asleep and being fully awake, early in the morning, so I keep a notebook handy to help me capture them.What open, solution-focussed question could you ask about a ‘double-bind’ in your life? What doors could it open that previously seemed shut?Warm wishesMadeleineFiled under: 60 Seconds to ConfidenceLeave a comment Continue reading

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Self Esteem | Psychological Resilience | The Self Esteem Blog

You are here: Home / Self Esteem / Psychological ResiliencePsychological ResiliencePosted by Dr. Irene on May 1, 2013 · 1 CommentBy Vijaya Manicavasagar –According to the dictionary definition, resilience is ‘the act of rebounding or springing back (1626)’. By 1830, the word was being used to refer to the act of ‘rising readily again after being depressed; cheerful, buoyant, exuberant’.We know that vulnerability to stress lies on a continuum with some individuals more resistant than others. Continue reading

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building Self Confidence: Self Development: A Way to Success

No matter what status we hold in society, either a student, an executive, an employee or a teacher, we are entitled for improvement, not only for the betterment of our lives, but also for self-fulfillment and self gratification.Not a single person in this world is perfect and exempted from committing mistakes and flaws in life, but we have the power and capacity to change them for the betterment of our lives and welfare of the people around us.Some people failed to succeed in life because they refused to accept their flaws, failed to recognize their lack of qualities and skills and hesitate to accept the reality that we are in a competitive world, bound to compete with others to survive.In order to succeed and perform better in whatever field of endeavor to choose to pursue, we should not only be contented with what skills we have, but we must take measures to develop our personalities. Developing your personality plays a vital role in your success, affecting how you tackle and how you eliminate the obstacles that you encounter.Before you take action to develop yourself, you must do an inventory of your total personality and assess which areas need improvement and what skills you lack.Areas of personality which are vital to one’s success:Communication skills – it is important in one’s personality development because through it you can express your thoughts, ideas and opinions. Communication skills that need improvement include effective persuasive writing skills and telephone communication skills. Confidence – if you have confidence, you care confident that you can do what ever you aim for in life. Inferiority complex and inadequacy hinder personal growth, while boost of self-confidence is needed to achieve success and happiness Continue reading

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How To Build Self-Confidence – Essential Life Skills

Home Develop Your BrainDevelop Your Creativity Mental & Physical Personal Effectiveness Recent Articles [?] Subscribe ToThis Site How To Build Self-Confidence When I was in my late teens a friend of mine, an elite athlete, gave me the most profound, yet simple advice that changed the way I would view myself forever. He told me: “If you don’t think very highly of yourself, you can’t expect anyone else to think it of you.” Translation – It means that we alone are responsible for building self-confidence. We cannot depend upon, or wait for anyone else’s approval. Continue reading

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Building Self Awareness and Confidence — Keeping Creativity Alive

Building Self Awareness and Confidenceby Lina on April 10, 2013Through my contemplations about what it means to be creative I keep going back to one thing: Confidence. Having the confidence to try new things, to explore and to create.I’ve been thinking a lot about things I can do to help my little ones build confidence.A few days ago I came across a link to a blog article titled “Would you let your baby do this?” Intrigued I clicked through and read the article and of course watched the video. It really caused me to pause and think about my own parenting style and how I would have handled myself in that situation.Then I was in that situation. A day or two later I was at the park with my girls. E went for the climbing wall and I decided that rather than help her climb the wall as I had the week before I would watch closely… and on a whim I decided to video tape the experience.“I did it!”This video absolutely captures for me what Janet Lansbury’s article is all about: allowing children the opportunity to practice their gross motor skills without interfering and observing the benefits!What struck me the most as this was taking place is that E asked for help remembering that I had helped her before Continue reading

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The Fine Line Between Self-Confidence & Cockiness – Psych Central

We all know people who sing their own praises at every work or social opportunity. You may sometimes wonder if they know something about self-confidence that you don’t. Perhaps their annoying habit is a sign that they’ve discovered some secret to waking up every day feeling ready to conquer the world. Truly, the line between self-confidence and arrogance can seem finer than it really is.Cocky or Confident?Cocky people do have confidence, but it comes from a different place than true self-assurance Continue reading

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Building Self Esteem – The Self Esteem Blog

You are here: Home / Self Esteem / Building Self Esteem: 5 Essential Ways To Direct Your Thoughts Toward SuccessBuilding Self Esteem: 5 Essential Ways To Direct Your Thoughts Toward SuccessPosted by Dr. Irene on September 5, 2012 · Leave a CommentBy Sal R Ingoglia -Changing yourself and getting a higher level of results starts with changing your thoughts. After you change your thoughts, your actions will change and the results you will get will also improve.Here are some of the most important things you have to know about how to direct your thoughts to reach higher levels of success:#1: Your thoughts will help you reinvent your personality, start building self esteem and become empowering.It’s important to reinvent yourself and your life regularly. People have the tendency to do the same things every single day. They get into their habits and routines. Continue reading

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