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Why You Need Strong Self-Esteem « MarriageSherpa

A healthy sense of self-esteem is essential for a healthy relationship. The two feed into each other, creating a symbiosis of strength.But if you came into your relationship with low self-esteem, or something has happened in your relationship to damage it, your relationship will be weakened as a result.In this blog, we’ll look at why self-esteem is essential to the strength of your relationship, and how to strengthen yours.  Read on…Why You Deserve Strong Self-EsteemIf you lack self-esteem, you may be waiting for your relationship to improve so you can feel better about yourself.Unfortunately, that’s not going to get you very far.Low self-esteem tends to perpetuate issues in your relationship.  It’s a spiral that either leaves the relationship spinning in the same position, or takes it lower.A healthy sense of self-esteem signals strength.  And humans, by nature, are drawn to strength.  That’s why we look up to heroes and heroines… we want to be like those who exhibit certain qualities—and weakness isn’t one of them.And that’s what self-esteem is… a weakened and diluted version of your true self, that strong person that you are capable of being who stands tall in the world with the expectation of good things.If you want your partner to step up and treat you better as well as work on improving your relationship dynamics, you will want to show your strong side. Remember that people are drawn to strong people, and a healthy sense of self-esteem is a sign of strength.Here are two tips for strengthening your self-esteem…Self-esteem Booster #1: Be Specific about What You WantPart of getting what you want in life is knowing exactly what it is that you want.  Too many people have a vague sense of the good things they deserve, so they’ll say something such as, “I want to be happy in my relationship,” or “I want to feel successful.”Drill down to the specifics so that you know what you’re aiming for and you’ll have a greater chance of getting it.Self-esteem Booster #2: How to Self-Talk to Better Self-EsteemA lot of our self-esteem involves how we talk to ourselves.  If you tell yourself you don’t deserve good things, or things always mess up for you, you’ll believe what you tell yourself.So take the specific goals that you have in mind, and tell yourself that they are reachable and that you deserve them.The more times you repeat this to yourself, the easier it will be to believe it… it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.  And as you get the good things you deserve, it will contribute to feeling a stronger sense of self-esteem.My best to you in building self-esteem.Do you have a healthy sense of self-esteem?If not, why?  Did you bring low self-esteem into the relationship, or did something happen in your relationship to give your self-esteem a blow?Please share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.Wishing you hope and healing for your marriage,Stephanie AndersonEditor-in-ChiefMarriage Sherpa Posts Related to Why You Need Strong Self-Esteem Boost Your Relationship: Do this 1 Thing…There’s one thing you can do today that will improve your relationship almost instantly.  It won’t cost you anything more than a little thought and … How to End Your Spouse’s AffairYour spouse may not have broken off his or her relationship with the paramour, or has in some way left the door open to the … When Infidelity Kills Your Self-EsteemYou felt great about yourself—until your spouse cheated on you. Now, your self-esteem has taken a plunge, and you wonder if you’ll ever feel good .. Continue reading

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