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Building self-confidence | Jerry R Mitchell's Blog

Last week as I was networking with several entrepreneurs at a local restaurant the theme song from the “Rocky” movie was being played.  I foolishly told every one that I worked out to that song.  After explaining my past boxing career and how it helped me to build my confidence I thought I could finish my meal in peace. The entrepreneurs wanted more questions answered and as I discussed self-confidence and how one built it an idea for an article flashed before my eyes.We learned it as a little kid-home-court advantage; it’s nothing to be taken lightly.  Maybe you got your first taste of it at a piano recital or an elementary school sporting event, where the place was packed with your supporters.  Just about everyone but the family dog was there, plus a couple of neighbors, and you knew that a bunch of the other kids’ parents were rooting for you too.  So how could you lose?  How could you do anything but perform at your very best under those circumstances?Consider the opposite situation.  It’s the Chicago vs. New York boxing championships.  I’m expected to have a tooth-and-nail battle with the New York champion, and I’m in his city.  Chicago and his have a long history of ethnic clashes and the like (Irish VS Italian).  And since cultural niceties in New York don’t include restraining oneself when expressing political and cultural preferences, every time I come out of my corner, the crowd boos, shouts and curses me-to the point where a riot seems inevitable.  It continues through each round, a situation that’s hardly conducive to success, right?  How could anyone expect you to succeed in an adversarial environment like that?Recent psychological research has shown that as comforting as it might have been to have your grandmother at your side during that solo that really isn’t the way to produce the top performance.  In fact, hostile audiences can actually bring out your best.Research psychologists have studied skilled performances and what happens when you have hostile strangers or family and friends in the audience. Common sense dictates that you’d obviously do better in front of the supportive audience and you’d probably also think that the effect would be more pronounced with a high- skill task than with a low-skill task.  In fact, research indicates the opposite, so even though the people who had the support of friends during their task experienced less stress than those who had to perform in front of hostile strangers, the second group produced better performances and got through the task faster.  Talk about turning a negative into a positive.Explanations for those results suggest that perhaps when you face a crowd of friendly faces, you might simply choke from the pressure of trying to please them.  When you face a hostile crowd, though, you might feel that you have nothing to lose, so you take risks that pay off in better performance.  Some people can simply draw on the negative energy generated by the hostile crowd, harnessing it to produce better results.On the day of the competition I felt that I was in the middle of the arena awaiting the emperor’s sign to decide my fate.  It’s not quite that dramatic or quite that hostile, but I sure was not in the thick of things with my best friends.  The crowd might not behave by throwing chairs at me, but if words and looks could kill, I would be pushing up daisies.I didn’t let it get under my skin, however, and to throw the hostile audience a curve, I politely smiled, bowed and waved to the spectators before ripping a combination of punches to their champion in a way that left even me stunned.  I acted as if I did it every day, sometimes maybe even before breakfast, and they go silent.  They don’t know quite what to make of me.  On the other hand, I knew that I had a secret, how to use their hostility for my good.  I also knew that the moment was mine, so instead of putting on a boxing exhibition I went for the knockout.  I’m definitely in the zone.I figure I may as well go for it, so I pulled out all the stops.  By the time the contest was over, I had the fans’ hero on the floor, and even though they may still hate my guts, I’ve not only won the contest, but I’ve also used their hostility to help me do it.  This time when I smiled and bowed, I knew that I really owed them a lot, even if they don’t have a clue that they helped me beat their champion.  Neat trick.In my entrepreneurial life often times I was in hostile territory. Starting new industries requires thick skin because everyone keeps telling you that what you want to accomplish is impossible.Share and Enjoy: These icons link to social bookmarking sites where readers can share and discover new web pages Continue reading

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Using body language to nail that job

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Be Proud of Your Blowjob Skills

So the other day I was reading another blog talking about blowjobs. Or about how to give one, specifically. It’s a great article and spells out what I talk about in the blowjob guide on my site, that you need to have fun.However, something the author mentioned in the opening of the post stuck with me. “Because being able to give good head is important. It’s important for your man. Continue reading

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maria – Twelve Rules for Building Self-Confidence. – My Opera

Twelve Rules for Building Self-Confidence.Saturday, April 27, 2013 9:07:14 PMLife is change. Every day is different. Every dayis a new beginning and a new ending. Embraceit and make the best of it. 1 Continue reading

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Ten Tips to Stop Self-Harm

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There Is No Time Like The Present to Build Confidence and Self …

As you all may know I am reading The Power of Now, it’s one of the many books on my book lists.  I feel reassured when I read, it makes me feel confident.  There are so many ways to feel confident but are they the right ways?  Or are we just pleasing our ego temporarily and hurting others along the way.  Let’s focus on ourselves, for a bit, and build confidence and self esteem together.  Below is a list of how to build confidence and self-esteem I picked up from Psychology Today:In (bold and parenthesis) I’ve added my thoughts.Building Confidence and Self-Esteem:FYI For Your Improvement: A Guide for Development and Coaching.  This was one of my text books when I was studying for a Master’s in Business Administration.1. Make three lists: one of your strengths, one of your achievements, and one of the things that you admire about yourself. Try to get a friend or relative to help you with these lists. Keep the lists in a safe place and read through them regularly. Continue reading

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8 Reasons Your Customers Don't Care – EyesOnSales

Related StoriesValue Selling: Getting Customers…Six Steps You Can Take to…Selling Value When Customers…Improving Communications…Fire Your Customers: How…If you want to close more sales, you better first do something about these 8 reasons your customers don’t care:1. Why should they care about you when you don’t care about them?Don’t even try faking it. If you do try to fake that you care, your customer will throw you out even faster. Successful salespeople care about their customers.2. There is no difference between what you’re selling and what your competitor is selling.If you can’t come up with at least 5 reasons why you’re different than your competitor, then how will you ever expect the customer to buy from you?3. Continue reading

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Do u believe in the future?

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The Unwritten Rules of Building Self-Confidence | Inspired Every …

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