Emotional Abuse: The Quiet Killer

 “Emotional violence is another kind of abuse … it’s not about words because an emotionally abusive person doesn’t always resort to using the verbal club, but rather the verbal untraceable poison.”  ~ Augusten BurroughsIt was after reading the above passage in a book I recently completed by Augusten Burroughs that I stopped dead in my tracks.  Emotional abuse?  This concept was something completely new to me.  The words settled like lead inside of my head.  What I had discovered in those precise few moments, was the exact description for the subtle abuse I was, and still am, facing from my estranged parents.  I read on: They may, in fact, speak very kind words to you.  And appear nothing but supportive to those around you.  Their covert abuse is administered in small, cunning ways over time.  So the impact is gradual, not fist-to-the-eye immediate. What struck me about this quote is the fact that emotional abusers are very passive, very subtle, very quiet.  I would even go so far as saying … very introverted in their approach.  This single moment led me to wonder: is this the introvert’s favored form of abuse?  And also … do I unwittingly border on emotional abuse when I’m upset with someone?  And also … who else shows signs of being emotionally abusive in my life?  I know, I know, it all sounds very intense and extreme, doesn’t it?  Guess that’s just me.The tricky thing with emotional abuse like anything quiet and unobtrusive, is that it can be overlooked easily, blending into the background of life.  Luckily however, it can lead traces of something “not being quite right” in your relationships – something wrong that you just can’t quite put your finger on.My hope is that this article will help introduce, or reintroduce, you to the world of emotional abuse.  If you do decide to continue reading, please consider introspecting and reflecting on yourself and the people in your life.  It could make all the difference in the world.Emotional Abuse: The Devil’s Quiet SisterEmotional abuse is also known as psychological or mental abuse.  It’s aim is to control, belittle, isolate and shame other people into subservience.  This happens little by little overtime, so that the victim’s sense of self-worth, self-confidence, self-concept and own ideas and perceptions erode.Many emotional abusers operate under the guise that they are “teaching”, “advising”, “correcting”, and/or “guiding”, and therefore fly under the radar, spreading their poison for years upon years. Types Of Emotional AbuseEmotional abuse rarely just involves criticisms or put-downs.  I’ve listed some more kinds of abuse below that you should be wary of.  Also, be a bit careful when you read this list.  For instance, you may find one or two symptoms of emotional abuse apparent in your life, but it doesn’t necessarily make your relationships absolutely and utterly emotionally abusive.  The more symptoms you recognize, the more likely you’re experiencing emotional abuse.1.  Control and Domination.They may control your money and your spending. They may treat you as an inferior person. They may make you feel small by reminding you of your faults and shortcomings

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Emotional Abuse: The Quiet Killer

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